In a recent article, popular author and speaker Brene Brown stated that people often get caught up in the false dichotomy of, “If you’re this then you’re automatically that,” – or companion thoughts of “us versus them” and “You’re either with us or against us.”
An open and shut case
When minds are closed and unyielding, emotions move people down unsecured paths filled with detours and byways of false, careless, and even dangerous thinking.
Open minds, by contrast, are win-win – they signal a rational and emotional intelligence or preference for collaboration, partnership, and creative thinking.
Fight the problem not the person
In the animal kingdom, wild dogs and other “pack hunters” work together to take down much larger animals. Their strategy is to use the stamina of their numbers, taking turns chasing their prey until it collapses in exhaustion to the point where even the smaller members of the pack can overpower and make the actual kill.
Pack hunters understand their ultimate survival depends on a team approach. They understand the most efficient way to solve their daily struggle for food isn’t to go it alone or even divide and conquer. Instead they direct their energy and talents into more of a collective of communal effort that benefits everyone.
Go for the big wins
The principle holds true for us as well. In our jobs, personal, and community lives we need to view problem-solving collectively. Sure, we all want certain things and when we tackle small issues on our own, we may get a few successes.
But if we truly want to make a big impact, if we really want to leave a legacy, if our end goal is the prosperity of all we have no choice but to do it together through a mentality and practice of civil dialogue and consensus thinking.
Without that we will ultimately starve ourselves, our families, and the communities we represent and cherish of the kind of meaningful change of which we can be proud.